Most of my friends are men. It’s just the way it is. I grew up playing ice hockey, running around the neighborhood, and riding dirt bikes (shadowing my older brother). His friends just seemed to have more fun (the fun I like anyway). I never got into what clothes, purses, or shoes I had, or drama or gossip. I prefer racing cars, flying planes, and negotiating deals. But all that being said I would NEVER be who I am without the girlfriends I have. If we are lucky, we find a friend that can see us for who we really are, beyond our flaws, nuances, and fallibility. Who understands us. Who truly loves us unconditionally, as we are. This friend helps define us and the person we become. I have been lucky enough to find three of these friends that have been there most of my life (over 20 years). We talk almost daily. And if we miss a few days, I feel a void that only one of them can fill. It is a bond of support, empathy, compassion, and love. No matter what new idea I have, they believe in me, encourage and push me. This love is stronger than any challenges or opposition I face. They have all stood by me in the hardest times in my life, sometimes carrying me forward one hour at a time. These women are genuinely my foundation. I am so grateful for each of them. To years of expansion, raising our children together, and trying to make a difference in the world. I couldn’t do it without them. We rise and fall together!” #bffsforever #truefriends #femininity #bond
“People don’t change, nor should they for you… no matter how wrong you think they are. Wanting someone to change makes them responsible for your happiness. They aren’t. Believe it or not, you both deserve someone to appreciate and love you right where you are. Likely, you are not honoring that you deserve better. But that doesn’t mean they are “wrong”, they are just the wrong match for you. The irony is, when you accept someone as they are (100%) and understand unconditional love, you will finally end up getting what you really want. It might just be from a different person.” @ jodihealy.com
Please stop the drama! There is a power greater than us all, that manifests all things on this planet (people being just one of them). If you knew this, if you understood, you would know you are safe, loved, and free. Please stop fueling fear based negative energy. I believe in a power greater than humanity, and if you realized that power is in you, we could focus on the world we want instead of one we don’t, and it would change. You CHOOSE the energy you align with and resonate in. Be happy. It starts there.
Sometimes, despite our greatest efforts and intention, things do not turn out as planned… We are forced with hard decisions. We are forced with letting go. We are forced with change. But, the most amazing thing is we do it, and survive. Stronger. Clearer. So even though you may be in a seemingly impossible situation, there is another side coming. This will pass. Everything happens for a reason, even if we never know all the reasons why. There is a complex interchange of energy and consciousness between all of us, constantly ebbing and flowing, shifting, and expanding… And If you can say you are genuinely doing the best you can, sometimes God just has a different plan. @ jodihealy.com
“Settling” is not about another person, it is a reflection of YOU. It isn’t because the other person is “not enough”, they will be and are enough for someone else (in the right energetic match). If you are with someone who you feel isn’t enough or at your level, it is your fault. YOU are not being at your level. Even if the person has some issue, is irresponsible, or immature, it doesn’t matter. You are not honoring your true self. You are not strong or confident enough to be where you want to be, you accept less… And the current person is simply a reflection of your inability to BE you, to honor what you really want and need, to be who you really are… I used to believe I was just with the wrong person, or I would never find the right person. It’s because I wasn’t being the right person. I was being what I thought I should, or conforming to what I believed a relationship should be. I denied my truth. I denied what I loved, what truly made me happy. I did what the other person wanted and didn’t demand reciprocity, because I wanted to make my partner happy. I thought that was love. I sacrificed myself. The irony in all of this is we blame others for what we aren’t getting. However, if we honored ourselves and followed our inner truth, it would naturally come to us because we would be resonating in that place… And when we do, the right people are waiting because they are already there. @ jodihealy.com