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I cannot believe how much tragedy I witness just on Facebook between friends and people I have never met. Real life tragedy; illness, car accidents, even murders. I only have about 4,000, and am sure I only see a percentage of their posts, imagine the reality of the world compounded by a billion… I personally choose to not watch the news, not because I live in denial about the truth of the world, but this constant energy bombarding you without balance can spiral you into negativity, sadness, or depression. Please make sure if you are constantly plugged into Facebook or other that you CREATE equally happy and positive messaging. We genuinely are what we surround ourselves with… @jodihealy.com #truth #balance #perspective
Would you have this surgery? I’m not sure I would. Before you decide, let me give you the details. My father is being scheduled for open heart surgery next month. He has 3 major clogged arteries and 2 faulty valves. Today, this is a very common surgery with a high success rate. In theory it could extend his life by 10 or even 20 years (of course assuming he doesn’t get hit by a truck 3 months later). A few years ago he completely recovered from Stage 3 rectal cancer, among other non-major, various surgeries. He is 75. The conversation I had with him is, “Why? Do you really want to live another 20 years, to 95”? Before you judge me, I love my father. My children love him. I want 20 more Christmases and Thanksgivings with him… But the question I am asking is a moral one, not an emotional one, because there is a difference. Why do we try so hard to extend our lives? For what? To enjoy 10 more years of McDonald’s? Sunsets? Nights cuddling with our loved ones? Do we try because we really believe life is finite and death is the end? I personally don’t. I could give you reasons why I know it isn’t, but faith is an individual experience. At 75 if you have some great service you have yet to bring to the world, some great work of art, some math theory that could decrease pollution, then by all means, stay. But isn’t there some irresponsibility and selfishness in the higher order of things to do everything we can to stay alive, a little longer? Will 10 more years change or improve the life he lived? To stay, and deplete more resources from the planet? Spend the amount of money for this type of surgery that could be used to help dying children or poverty? At 43 I would absolutely do the surgery. I have 3 small children who depend on me. However, I give them everything I can every day. I know my voice is strong in their heads, of right and wrong, and good and bad. I know what I imbed in them will echo forever… I have no fear of dying, and can honestly say if it is my time I am ready, other than the fear of pain. I know life is precious and have done everything I want and continue to. Genuinely. I eat healthy. I give back. I don’t drink. I do everything I can to live the best life I can, consciously and on purpose. Aren’t we selfishly trying to defy evolution? Darwinism predicts the stronger gene or cell will survive. Dawkinism states the best suited to its environment at the time will survive… Aren’t we constantly interfering in evolution? Species become extinct every day and some evolve to survive. Maybe intervening in all these ailments and diseases, is temporary, and we are actually preventing our DNA from adapting and evolving. I asked my Dad the same question, what do you want 10 more years to do with? At least make them count. —If you like this please share, someone else may too 🙂 @ jodihealy.com
It is amazing how our resistance and confidence can affect our lives so greatly… Why do we doubt our abilities, and automatically assume we can’t do something? Simple story. I hired an electrician because some of my recessed lights weren’t working. I have done some electrical work but “assumed” the entire thing would need to be changed and rewired (not something I felt comfortable doing)… The electrician came, charged over $200, and one still didn’t work… I had been aggravated for weeks, now 3 weren’t working. Last night from a leak (divine intervention?) I had to remove one, ironically, the one the electrician “couldn’t fix”. This light was missing the black housing part and I realized instead I could just screw in a regular lightbulb, so decided to research this. Come to find out I could replace just the cover and light for $14.97 each from Home Depot. It took me about 30 minutes to replace all 9. Voila! #ownyourpower #powerisinyou
Change your life, by changing your life.
Take action. No matter how hard it is. Take responsibility.
I did. I do.
I wanted to make more money, so I got a Master’s Degree
I didn’t like to work on someone else’s schedule, so I started my own company
I wasn’t happy in my relationship, so I got divorced
My back hurt, so I found a chiropractor
I almost died being poisoned, so I learned how to detox
I didn’t know how to change a pool pump, so I watched YOUTUBE
I wanted better books for my children, so I published a series
I never want to be dependent on a drug, so I eat organic and clean
I can go on and on. I am a doer, not a complainer.
I don’t want a pat on my back, I want YOU to own your power.
It is in you. Use it.
Life is about direction. Challenges. Finding a way.
It isn’t easy to change, but I would rather be doing something about it than sitting around wishing, complaining, or feeling unfulfilled…
Life is too short.
If you have a problem, fix it.
Or, if you WANT something go get it.
#powerisinyou #innerpower #changeyourlife #jodihealy
So often people feel hurt because someone doesn’t share what they feel… It doesn’t change your experience just because they aren’t in the same place. It doesn’t make your love less, if you love someone and they don’t love you back. Or, they don’t love you the same way. It doesn’t make the experience not real, or a lie, or a waste of time, or any different. Love is a gift, even if it is not reciprocated. Everything you experience is through your reality, your past, your filter. Somehow we believe if someone else shares it, exactly the same way, it will validate it. It is not true. Ideally we all yearn for someone to share our “whole” selves with, someone who can see what we see, but maybe that’s never going to happen (at least the way we yearn for). I am not so sure it’s possible, or is supposed to be possible. We each have a unique signature field of how we experience life, and not one of us is the same. So even though you may be sharing a moment with another, the other person may be having a completely different experience… this does not mean you do not deserve to be loved in the way you desire, it just means enjoy every experience you have, for you, for what it is. Don’t wait for someone to validate it. @ jodihealy.com
No one wants to admit this, but women are tired. That’s why divorce is on the rise. Despite popular belief, it’s not because we wake up one day “and fall out of love” with the person we married. We are tired, tired of being responsible for everything… Now don’t assume this is a male bashing article. It’s not. I am simply trying to shed some light on a silent epidemic. It might even save someone’s marriage.
Now let me start with this, we didn’t ask for the responsibility. We don’t ask for it. We don’t want it all either. And divorce by no means makes it any easier, but it does alleviate the daily tension, compounding resentment, and stress many women experience with the person they once “loved”.
Not one of my friends has ever called me and said, “I really just don’t love him anymore, I want a divorce. I want something “new”. The calls, instead are often, and frequent, and become a build-up of frustration, resentment, loneliness, and anger… and ultimately exhaustion. I don’t use the word complaining on purpose, because it’s a word that isn’t taken seriously. It’s often associated with “nagging”. When instead women just wants a partner to help, support them, understand. They are desperate for it.
And no, I don’t buy the excuse men and women are different, that they think differently. That is the easy way out of the conversation.
When two people get married they sign a contract. A legally binding financial and life contract. In business, this means you will work together, “through sickness and in health” to build a strong and successful business, no matter what, at all costs. Because the stakes are usually so high. Most people invest their life savings into a new venture. And in this venture they work to build a strong and stable future. So why, is marriage any different? Why does marriage fail so often? Why aren’t the two people putting all their effort into building something strong together, that will stand the test of time?
When women started working outside of the home, something changed. Not only were we now expected to work a part or full time job, to be able to contribute financially towards our “contract”, but we also, usually by default are STILL responsible for the house and the children. And somehow the workload of the house and children has NEVER balanced off.
Yes, men will mow the lawn and fix things, but women USUALLY are the ones not only managing the house but the lives of everyone in it, including the spouse, the husband. Because she loves him, and wants to take care of him too. We love to take care of our children, our family.
And we do this naturally. It is our nature to be able to multi-task, keep many unrelated things organized and planned in our heads, so life runs smoothly. You will rarely hear a mother complain about doing these things too.
Generally the mother is the one packing lunches, filling out school forms, making the list or doing the grocery shopping, laundry, picking out school clothes, making sure homework is done, school bags packed with the right shoes for gym, gloves, erasers, cupcakes for parties, birthday RSVP’s, and more. Compound that times the number of children.
The mother is also usually the one managing time, the social life of the family, each appointment and practice, soccer, girl scouts, early dismissals for dentist or doctor appointments, ensure after school care, or stays home when the children are sick, on and on. Not even counting the endless of hours of driving.
The mother is also the emotional barometer of the family. When a child is hurt or in pain they instinctively go to the mother, her hugs and comfort can take anything away. This carries from infancy forward. She is there to answer questions, about everything, to help with the friend who is being mean at school, about a developing body, ailments, or challenges.
And yes, most husbands do “help”. And I know there are exceptions to the rule. I don’t even believe it is intentional. If asked most will take the children to a soccer practice or a doctor appointment, and also can put on a band aid. But that’s not the issue.
The mother is the epicenter in managing a home. She is the one who makes sure the children (and usually the husband too) have their vitamins and prescriptions, or inhaler, hair put up, dresses on picture day, clean jersey or cleats, or water bottles for the game.
This is the exhausting part. There is never a break. Even during sleep our minds wander and we wake up in the middle of the night, worrying, about the specialist we need to make an appointment for.
It is a full time job, on its own.
Now add work, a job outside the home. Another whole focus a woman has to put herself into, where she has to perform. Meetings, deadlines, emails, text messages. These are often done in between homework and making dinner or doing baths. And often the appointments and scheduling for the children are done at work. It is never ending. There is never a MENTAL break.
Now add a husband, also tired from working and doing his part with the family. He comes home and desires intimacy with his wife, and wants to share his day, his stresses. He wants her attention too.
Unfortunately, she has little left to give. She is exhausted.
I don’t know how to change this, I don’t have the answer, but maybe awareness will help.
Women need time, a break. Maybe just needs someone to notice, or hold her and thank her for it all…
Often, the only break a woman gets is when it is time to go to “Daddy’s” house…. And sadly, this is why divorce is on the rise. #divorce #truth #womenaretired #jodihealy @jodihealy.com
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You are part of something great, just being you, being alive. You are part of the infinite energy cycle of life, a fragment of source power, a fragment of God. To not realize this isolates you from the love and power that is intrinsically yours… accessible to you, manifesting not only your physical being but every facet of life. This energy creates and encompasses all things. Is cyclical. You are not only connected to it, you are part of it, and are it. Meditate on this, and you will not only find God, but your truth. @ jodihealy.com