My wish for you, is rather than set New Year’s resolutions, spend an hour to reflect on the life you have created, ALL the amazing and wonderful things you have EXPERIENCED (and survived), that have made you who you are…
Life is about the EXPERIENCES we have and create… NOT the things we accumulate or achieve. Not the things we regret or don’t do, but the things we do.
We are here to experience good and bad, happy and sad, ALL of it. When we learn to relish in the things we label as bad we become free, and in some way JUST learn to enjoy the ride, even the bumps along the way… all that matters is now, and life, really (why we are here) is simply about experience.
You can’t DO anything wrong, as long as you are doing what’s right for you. If people get hurt along the way by what you do to take care of yourself, that’s their stuff, their lesson, and their responsibility.
Someone asked me if I had any regrets… and honestly I can say none. I move forward. I can’t say I always made the right decisions or choices but every single one of them has made me who I am. They gave me perspective, something which allows me to understand others and have compassion. If nothing, I can relate because I’ve been there. I’ve experienced similar or the same. This connects me to all of you, to everyone. Our circumstances may be different but we are all the same; our experience, our FEELINGS. It is all relative.
Regrets are for those who feel things could have or should have been different… It is a waste of energy. There are only two days that never matter – yesterday and tomorrow.
I look at life as opportunity, to experience new FEELINGS, new sensations. I try to stretch beyond my comfort zone and open myself to all the waves of energy that accompany life and a new experience. I take full responsibility for myself, my health, my life.
I did more than most ever will by the time I was 25, and now that I’m 41, probably more than a hundred will do. And I am FAR from done. I can’t wait to do more. I feel like I haven’t done enough. Does this make me better? Not at all. Do I say this in ego? No, because I don’t do things because I’m supposed to or because people think I should. I do what I FEEL. I WISH the same for you.
I used to take my parents car when I was 13 to go buy pizza, but I also drove two drunks home from a party at 15 so they wouldn’t kill someone. I have shoplifted, stole my prom dress (which I paid back years later), watched a high school boyfriend run a drug operation. I never judged. I saw how hard it was to be homeless after your abusive father kicked you out at 17, and how some simply find a way to survive.
I travelled around the world at 20 with no money, stood at the top of the Pyramids, drank with Russian Mafia in Turkey, got lost in Taiwan on a bus route in the mountains and rescued by a loving family, had my umbrella taken by gun point in India, hiked in two different rain forests (one during a flash flood), attacked by monkeys in Costa Rica, flown in a helicopter over the Grand Canyon. I never had fear. I figured if it was my time to go, why not go while doing something incredible. I love to travel, immerse myself in another culture, another energy… the different smells, sounds, all encompassing. Even Texas for a weekend will do it.
But travelling doesn’t require tons of money, it can be done right where you are. Go into an Asian or Muslim home, an inner city, the top of a local mountain, walk in the woods or down your street in the middle of the night during a full moon. Become a bee keeper. Any of those things will heighten your senses and take you to another place. Open your reality to something new JUST BECAUSE you can. This is your power.
I have been drugged (slipped a mickey) and almost died in my sleep from it. By the grace of God friends saw me come in and stayed with me throwing up through the night. Although the friends who dropped me off had no idea, they brought me home so I was safe before anything horrible could happen. Angels are everywhere.
I have wanted to die, ridden the darkness of feeling so alone and separate from everyone, that no one understands. I knew I could end it but at the same time realized life was so short why bother. In this acceptance, I found life was what I wanted it to be, and what I wanted to create. I could ride the darkness or I could find the light. I chose the light. This cycle plagues many of us, but it isn’t until you understand the choice is yours, do you REALLY choose.
My best friend died while I was standing at the top of the Acropolis in Greece, with this heavy feeling of passing and awe. She was a neighbor, a gift, a universal grandmother of unconditional love. I met her when I was three, she was 65. I visited her everyday until she moved to assisted living, then as often as I could. I learned age is irrelevant and a soul mate connection can supersede time.
I was a waitress, letter carrier, worked in an abortion clinic during the shootings, a customer service phone rep for a bank, a security guard, High-school teacher in an inner city with students older than I was, a software developer, a corporate executive during the .com wave, real estate broker. I built a national multi-million dollar corporation, built houses, flipped houses. All represented different micro-cultures I was privileged to be part of…
I was the youngest woman to present a REIT concept at a staple financial institution on Wall Street (I sat down and they gave me their coffee mugs). I had my first company sold for 10 million and at the same time was being investigated by the Attorney General during the mortgage collapse. I know many who went to jail, as examples, from being in the wrong place at the wrong time. I could have been one of those people even though I believe my company would have solved the foreclosure collapse. Some things in life are just meant to happen to reset the things that have gotten out of control.
I have flown a plane, done track days, raced Porsches, rode dirt bikes, 4 wheelers, Jet skis, water ski. I have had many luxury cars, houses, a yacht, my own plane, a second house in Florida Keys. Nice things are nice to have but I could care less about them. They do not define happiness. At one time I thought they did.
I have given birth and nursed three beautiful amazing children who I learn from every day. I have experienced a love I never knew existed coupled with the animalistic nature to protect an offspring. I have learned my children aren’t here for me, I am here for them. I have had a miscarriage and felt the powerlessness and loss of someone I never met.
I have been happily married and happily divorced. Marriage is a financial contract. One day at a time turns into forever. It either will or it won’t. A relationship should be what two people define it to be, not what someone else dictates. Divorce is hell. Hurt people hurt people.
I’ve dated men 15 years younger than me and some older. I have loved many men in my lifetime, many have loved me. But I never experienced true love until I learned to love myself. Love is not exclusive nor should it be – however relationships can be. If I fell in love with a woman I wouldn’t define it or label it as gay or bisexual. Love isn’t defined by the physical. The physical is an expression of love or an experience of the physical, not the reverse.
By no means is that everything I have done, nor have I done everything, nor would it be possible to. But I love my body. I love myself. I love my life. I tell myself this OUT LOUD every day – because words spoken are the manifestation of energy and create the reality you see…
In my future I have many things I want to experience…. A few things on my “bucket list” Machu Picchu, hike a volcano, climb Mount Everest, learn a second language, teach seminars around the world, publish a National Best Seller, hand glide, teach my children all I know…. How about you?
xo much love, Jodi © jodihealy.com – if you like this please share, someone else may too