What screws up most relationships is the blame game… even if you are right. By focusing on another you lose yourself. We spend so much time evaluating and trying to stop someone from doing something or acting the way they do, because it affects us. If you engage, you give another permission to wrap you up, transfer their feelings to you, and make you responsible. It is like a child having a temper tantrum, you cannot reason a child out of it nor can you reason an adult out of a rage. If you interfere you become the target. Children just have to get through it, release the negative energy from their bodies. And ironically, as soon as they do it’s usually done and forgotten. If we gave each other the freedom to do the same, to release whatever was inside (whether you agreed, liked it or not) without taking it personally… everyone would find the right to be who they are, share in honesty, and merge as partners in growth rather than stuck in the blame game… © Jodi Healy
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