We live in a world where we constantly try to make others wrong, responsible, accountable for our fear, our pain and our unhappiness. We give up our innate power to them, by letting anything they say or do affect us.. then we hold them liable for what is triggered inside of us. We blame them, judge them, argue with them, negotiate, reason, attack, retreat, get caught in the power games of the ego. We try to get them to change, not act the way they are, be different.. Yes, sometimes we are being abused, hurt, attacked, cheated, lied to… So What? Why does that person have the power to deprive us from peace and serenity. Why does it really matter what they think, say or do? Why does something outside of us have the ability to make us upset? Our natural state of consciousness is contentment, unconditional love, a desire to commune. Yet, somewhere we lost this connection to ourselves and gave up our power to the “external”… What we don’t realize is the external is temporary, as our existence here.. the external is really just our perception, evasive, never guaranteed, fleeting… Anything that we experience is a trigger to something inside of us, simply an activation of energy within us, a feeling, a pleasure, pain. It is ours. Our illusion is when that something is no longer present, changes, or is not consistent we think it takes that activation, that higher state of pleasure and consciousness with it. It’s not true. That higher state of happiness is ours, not what someone does or gives to us. Yes the external is in motion and happening all around us, we cannot escape it. We are enmeshed in it.. And clearly boundaries are important. But, boundaries are misunderstood, they are not to influence or control someone else so we feel better. Boundaries are meant to protect with every ounce of our being our internal happiness- to own our part in our interaction, reactions, our triggers and the feelings inside of us… We are responsible completely for what we choose to be, have and feel- not because of what someone says or doesn’t say, does or doesn’t do. Nothing, absolutely nothing has power over us, unless we let it. It is our choice to choose what we let in, let affect us and ultimately what we choose to experience. Choose happiness.
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