All we can do it move forward, yet so many of us dwell on the past.

All we can do it move forward, yet so many of us dwell on and in the past. Each day can hold a new beginning, even in the hardest situations or worst relationships. It simply takes a shift in attitude, letting go of what has passed, and a true willingness to move forward. If each side agrees to start over, a new beginning can unfold. Blame, shame, guilt, must cease… residual pain felt and released, independently… Pain is ours and ours alone. A new day can begin at any given moment, and a new beginning… if you are willing… © Jodi Healy

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Someone can only take your power, if you let them…

What we often don’t realize, is we are the ones who give our power away. No one takes it, no one can, unless we let them. We believe we are a victim if another rejects us, disagrees with us, blames us, or simply doesn’t like us. Who cares? Ask yourself why you really care? Why do you give your power away, back down, believe something is wrong with you, or think you should change if they don’t agree or like you? Do they really have the answers? Are they really better than you? Of course not. Who said? If you let someone affect you, hurt you, change you, control you, make you feel bad, the only one to blame is you. Someone can only take your power or hurt you, if you let them… © Jodi Healy

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Love has no rules… ever ask “why?”

Love has no rules. Have you ever asked yourself “why?”… maybe it’s because it’s all that really matters. Love doesn’t follow logic, preconceived notions, conventions, a predictable path or outcome… it just happens. And when it does, nothing else matters. Why do we fight it? Try to control it? Deny it? Fear it? Love is our greatest power and our greatest experience. Let yourself love, even if it isn’t reciprocated… Be vulnerable. Be free. Love. © Jodi Healy

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Overweight? Stop eating!

We hear so much about exercising to lose weight, but the reality is, if you really want to lose weight you need to eat less. If you run a mile you only burn 100+/- calories, the equivalent of one cup of apple cider. Losing weight isn’t going to happen only if you add exercise, of course it will help, but barely unless you eat less. We all know we naturally burn 2,000+/- calories a day. If you consume more calories than you burn, it will be stored or converted as fat. It is simple logic and simple math. By no means is eating less an easy thing to change. I love my sweets and every time I overeat I regret it. But losing weight is about control, and really an emotional battle we all seem to ignore… We need to focus on why we eat and when. If we could stop ourselves from eating more than we need and balance in why we eat (not denying ourselves), we will naturally find ourselves at our perfect weight… © Jodi Healy

In “Energy Expenditure of Walking and Running,” published last December in Medicine & Science in Sports & Exercise, a group of Syracuse University researchers measured the actual calorie burn of 12 men and 12 women while running and walking 1,600 meters (roughly a mile) on a treadmill. Result: The men burned an average of 124 calories while running, and just 88 while walking; the women burned 105 and 74. (The men burned more than the women because they weighed more.)

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If you can’t be your true self, experience life authentically, then you aren’t really living.

Often our issue isn’t the truth, it’s that we take another’s “truth” personally… or they take our “truth” personally… so instead of being purely genuine, sharing our raw thoughts and feelings, as they come, as they are, we temper them. It’s easier, and sometimes clouded, in an illusion that we can control an outcome or another’s reaction or experience by altering the truth… Truth cannot be suppressed. The truth isn’t always easy to hear, to share, or to bear, but it’s the only way to live life fully. A lot of pain and suffering would be eliminated if people were free to just be, completely who they are, without limitation, judgment, or conditions… Feelings aren’t right or wrong, they are simply our experience. What we do with feelings can lead to perceived “wrong” actions, but my guess is a lot of that wouldn’t happen if we could experience our feelings for what they are first… If you can’t be your true self, experience life authentically, then you aren’t really living. © Jodi Healy

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Most people don’t do things intentionally to hurt us or disappoint us…

I have learned that most people don’t do things intentionally to hurt us or disappoint us, and often have no idea they are. We all do what we are capable of… with our “stuff”… what we “inherited”, have experienced… we interpret and react the way we know how… often the only way we know… we often blame, push people away, reject them, and say hurtful things when we feel hurt or simply can’t handle something. Sometimes we aren’t capable of thinking of the consequences or what is happening to another. And although I believe in taking full responsibility for what I do, some people just aren’t able to. In healing myself, fixing what was broken in me, not blaming everything outside of me, and accepting I can only complete and fulfill myself, I found unconditional love. But unconditional love does not mean self sacrifice, martyrdom, or not caring of yourself first. It means understanding others in compassion and with empathy, in love, and often from a distance… © Jodi Healy

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Really want to lose weight? Look great? Feel Amazing? Three things to do.

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